Once you learn that a birth doula is a support person that can help with physical, emotional and informational support during pregnancy, labor, birth and postpartum you can probably see why hiring a doula is very beneficial for a mom but did you know there are many reasons why hiring a doula is beneficial for dads too?
5 Reasons Why Hiring a Doula Will be Beneficial for Dad
A doula can give Dad a break if needed.
Dad will need to use the restroom sometime during Mom’s labor. He will also need to drink and to eat something. He may need to take a cat nap because his eyes just can’t stay open (long labors are very real and tiring). Dad may need to take a moment to himself, even if it is to just walk around for a minute to stretch his legs. He may not feel he can do these things, or feel guilty about doing them if your family didn’t hire a doula who can continue to be with Mom while Dad is doing what he may need to do.
A Doula brings her knowledge and experience with her to your birth
(plus a bag full of tricks) that Dad can use to comfort Mom.
Most doulas have attended multiple childbirth classes to learn all things pregnancy, labor, birth and postpartum. They should be VERY educated on these areas. Normally they read COUNTLESS books on the above subjects and have supported many families before your family. Each labor and birth is unique so if you come across a doula who is just starting off she will serve your family the same as any another great doula… with all of her heart. A doula also usually has a bag of things with her that can help Dad help Mom. From chap stick that Dad may need to apply; to a special scarf that the doula can teach Dad to use to help Mom with comfort; plus lollipops, mints, heat pads, massage oils, tennis balls plus usually more. But the most important thing your doula will bring that will help Dad help Mom is her brain full of knowledge and a heart that loves questions and supporting families.
A doula can remind Dad of what Mom wants for the
birth and how to make sure he is heard by the staff.
Hospitals are busy places. Nurses change shifts and doctors come and go. Sometimes things get confusing when you don’t remember who you have already spoken to, or who you have explained your birth preferences with. That is where a doula can be helpful to Dad. Mom is busy doing the work she needs to focus on labor, so Dads are called on help talk to the staff and answer questions. If they ask you questions that you can’t quite remember answers to, a doula can pull out the birth preference sheet and remind you of what you and Mom discussed and talked about. And if Mom does need to answer some questions your doula can help remind everyone that they need to wait until she is out of a contraction before she is asked any questions.
Doulas and Dads are great teammates. They can both serve Mom and can support her in all the ways she needs to have support. A neat way a dad explained the process to me was Dad is the right hand and the Doula is the left. Together they can do an amazing job at supporting mom.